Everyone is pretty much sick of hearing from Christians every time the debate of homosexuality comes up. I don’t blame them. I am too. We do a pretty bad job of jumping out and letting the whole world know how we feel when someone comes out with their sexual orientation. I’ve had my thoughts before but I’m not a very social or political voice. I have my beliefs and opinions but unless you’re in my tight circle, I usually err on the side of tact and avoid religion and politics until you REALLY get to know who I am so you don’t judge my heart based upon what I say about a certain topic. We are too easily called to judge based upon what someone says about their beliefs. However, this morning, my heart was just beating through my chest with this message…Like a bat signal being sent out for Batman hahaha I could not ignore what was running through my mind at light speed.
I preface this by saying this is for everyone to hear…Christians or Not. I’ll write it in both parts. For those of you who aren’t Christians…I’m sorry. I’m deeply sorry that every time someone comes out and states they are gay/homosexual, we immediately offer the fact that it’s a sin. When was the last time someone got on the air, whether it been radio or news and said, “I’m a Christian, and I still love [insert the person here]. I haven’t heard anyone in a while. The first thing they want to say is that it’s a rebellion against God and it’s wrong and sinful. Now, hear me on this. As Christians, do we believe homosexuality is a sin?? Yes. Let me break it down for you so it doesn’t sound as harsh. Sin, in God’s eyes, just means missing the mark. You are good and your heart is good. Sin is like a disease. When someone has cancer, you automatically don’t think that it’s part of their identity, it’s just something they have. We have sin but it doesn’t mean we are HORRIBLE people. I see God as a master artist. If you were to create a masterpiece of art, say the Sistine Chapel, and then someone comes along and tries to alter the original in a way it wasn’t intended, wouldn’t you be like, “That’s not how it’s supposed to be”? We are all protective of what we create. So when anyone sins whether it be someone lying, being too proud, murdering someone, stealing, committing adultery…All the sin means is that, that wasn’t what God intended. And if you study the Bible, you will learn there are 7 sins God ABHORS. Homosexuality isn’t one of them. Everyone makes it out to be a HUGE deal when God really hates such things as pride, not taking care of widows and orphans…so on and so forth.
Now, another question for Christians. Those of you who decide it is your duty to blast to the world how horrible homosexuality is, have you ever taken the time to understand what it feels like to have homosexual feelings?? I’ve had friends that have come out as gay, even those who attend church. Have you ever stopped to ask them what it’s like to be in a Christian community, where your whole life, you are brought up to believe that God honors a love between a man and a woman, yet you have always had an attraction to men/women?? Can you honestly say you understand that?? Maybe you’ve never struggled with alcohol or drugs. Does that mean the person who does is in some way more flawed than you are?? I don’t think so. Imagine having a feeling that your whole life, you are told is wrong and sinful, and you’re trying to build a relationship with a God who says that feeling is wrong. Wouldn’t you feel frustrated? Wouldn’t you wonder why you have those feelings and if God is a loving God, why would he create you in such a way that would go against Him?? Do you think about these things, honestly? Because if you did, I think the empathy and compassion would be much better than creating a status of hate or misunderstanding. Hear me on this, I have an opinion. However, if I believe in God and He is my King, I follow what the King states. Does it state in the Bible that homosexuality is in a sin? Yes. But so is pride. So unless I’m willing to go around and start posting hate statuses about pride, you aren’t going to see me on some picket line for homosexuality. I’m going to love that person. I’m going to love you no matter what you struggle with. PLEASE STOP POSTING STATUSES AND MAKING STATEMENTS, CHRISTIANS ABOUT YOUR OPINION AND JUST START LOVING. Get on the air and say, “You know what, as a Christian, I follow a certain belief. Do I believe homosexuality is wrong, yes. But do I love him/her anyway? WITH EVERYTHING I HAVE, I DO.” You don’t have to lie about your beliefs. YOU MUST love the people around you. And until you can get your sin perfectly under control, don’t go around making others seem like theirs are bigger and worse than yours.
For those of you who feel you are gay/homosexual….If you were to ask me, “If God loves me, why would He create me with an attraction towards the same sex?” If I had to be honest, that’s a tough question. I don’t claim to understand everything about God or why certain things happen. I look at it as the same way of why God would create someone blind or with a missing limb. I don’t believe God causes these things. I don’t full understand either why He allows them. I do have some insight though. My answer is in two parts. First, we all struggle with something. If I believe in God, I have to believe in the enemy, Satan. If Satan wants to kill, steal, and destroy us (God’s creation), then He is going to find a way to destroy us by rebelling against God. It just makes sense in this love story. We are hated by Satan. He hates God so he wants us to hate Him too. He will tempt us with ANYTHING and EVERYTHING to get us away from God. I have friends that struggle with the urge to steal, the urge to get wasted all the time, the urge to do drugs, the urge to lie, the urge to manipulate. I believe all of us are created with a certain struggle. Some people have that struggle of homosexuality. Now, I say that lovingly because some people will read that and believe that “homosexuality isn’t a struggle, it’s who I am”. I understand that. I’m just saying it based on my beliefs. PLEASE understand that I love you no matter what, in the event that it comes off as not understanding. MY WHOLE GOAL is for you to see that I love you and I am not here to try to understand. I couldn’t ask you to understand my struggles either. The other reason I believe we suffer/struggle, is to bring God glory. We grow by overcoming our struggles, or our faith is strengthened by our suffering, He gets the glory. Just like growing our muscles by using resistance/struggle. It’s like as a parent when you have to do things to let your child grow. My mother tells a story of when I was a baby. She said that for me to learn to fall asleep on my own, she would have to put me to bed and then leave me to fall asleep, even if I was crying. She said it was the hardest thing she ever had to do because I’d be crying for her with my fingers under the door. She said she would cry tears and want to let me out but SHE HAD to let me grow. I’d eventually fall asleep with my fingers still under the door hahaha. I imagine God feeling that way. HE HATES when we struggle but knows we must struggle to grow. Let me state what I have learned…GOD HATES SUFFERING. There isn’t a tear He doesn’t account for. Why doesn’t God intervene sometimes?? Because if He forced everything, it wouldn’t help us grow and it wouldn’t be a love story if He forced everything. Now there are huge tragedies that are awful. Tsunamis, Hurricanes, Earthquakes…God hates when people suffer during those too. These are all deep theological questions that even us Christians struggle with. I’d be lying if I didn’t. But I’ve seen enough love and goodness in my life to trust that God loves me and He is always for me, even when it’s difficult to understand Him.
With that being said, I don’t understand what it’s like to have strong feelings for the same sex. I’ll never act like I know what it’s like. All I can offer is that I will love you no matter what. Do I agree with it? No, but my beliefs don’t have to dictate how much I love you. God didn’t state that my love was to be contingent on your beliefs. Jesus didn’t live that way. You read the bible, He hung out with everyone who struggled with something deep, not the people who thought they had it all together.
My whole goal in this was two-fold. One, to show that I LOVE YOU no matter what you struggle with, Christian or Non-Christian. Two, this is for the Christians who decide it is their duty to let the whole world know how they feel on ONE SIN instead of using the opportunity to love others. I read an article once about a pastor who was about to give a sermon on homosexuality. He was gonna teach how it was wrong and sinful until He was convicted to change it to a sermon of apologizing. He heard from someone that was gay, that they thought Christians hated them. WHAT?!?!?! You know we aren’t doing something right if someone thinks we hate them. Do as this pastor did and change your thoughts. He ended up spending the whole sermon apologizing, making it about how we have failed at letting the world know, we actually are called to love those in it. When was the last time you told someone you loved them, despite what they were struggling with?
You wanna know my beliefs on homosexuality, pride, murder, adultery, any sin??? I believe they aren’t what God intended. But even when you do sin, and I sin, and we sin…I will love you, everyone, and myself all the same and with the passion that God calls me to, as best as I can. I hope this provided some insight and love for you.
I Love You All,